Male Pleasure: Understanding It Better to Intensify It

It’s often (wrongly!) assumed that sexuality for people with penises is as simple as pie: they climax easily, quickly, and always in the same way. But in reality, that’s not the case at all, since men’s pleasure is just as complex as women’s.
Why? Because of differences in bodies, moment-to-moment desires, erogenous zones, as well as libido, physical health, and many other factors that can come into play. In short, male sexuality is far from basic or straightforward!

So, in the end, how do you experience sexual pleasure when you have a penis? Well, before answering that question (which, as you’ve probably realized, doesn’t have a universal answer), maybe we should start by trying to understand this pleasure, right?

How does male pleasure work?

We tend to think that pleasurable sensations in people with penises are concentrated solely in their genitals. Just as we often think that ejaculation is synonymous with satisfaction, or that men don’t fake it… In short, what a bunch of myths!

In fact, men’s erogenous zones are located all over their bodies. Just like women’s, really! As for ejaculation, it’s a mechanical and physiological phenomenon of the human body. It can be associated with intense pleasure, yes, but it can also occur without it. This is known as anhedonic ejaculation. Finally, studies prove it: men fake it, too!

As for the more academic and scientific aspects, we believe that enjoyment can be broken down into several phases:

1. Arousal phase: The erectile tissue fills with blood until a full erection is achieved. Male arousal can be triggered by various stimuli (smell, sight, touch, etc.) and intensified by manual caresses, erotic massages, “dirty talk,” etc.
2. Foreplay phase: a phase of exploration—or rather, “sexploration”! Using fingers, the tongue, internal or external stimulation, oral sex, masturbation... This sensual moment is a discovery of the other person’s body and/or one’s own body.
3. Orgasm: a peak of intense pleasure in which the body reacts to one or more forms of stimulation. A surge of hormones is released, and generally, you feel good—really good.
4. Refractory period: sexual arousal subsides.

⛔️ It's important to note thatmen don't necessarily reachorgasm every time! It's also worth adding that all these "phases" are merely guidelines and not universal rules. 🤗

How can you intensify sexual sensations?

Explore Your Sex Life to Have Better Orgasms

Quick sex has its charm—we agree—but sometimes you need to take your time to explore your sexuality. Erotic massage, oral sex, prostate massage, kisses on the neck, caresses at the hairline, nipple stimulation… There are many ways to build desire and arousal by touching your partner’s body! Just as there are many ways to do it without physical contact, thanks to sexting or virtual sex.

👉 To find out what turns you on, why not take the time to explore yourself? Discovering your own sources of sexual pleasure on your own—through touch or sex toys—helps you better guide future partners. It’s also a great way to take ownership of your body and your pleasure!

You can use amasturbator designed with a dual texture, like the Halo, which features both beads and ridges. Or you can explore prostate pleasure through stimulation on its own or as a complement to masturbation with a plug. My Lubie has created Aube, a plug made in France with a tapered shape and a suction cup base, so you can explore and enjoy it however you like.

We’d also like to take this opportunity to mention that certain sexual positions can intensifysexual sensations. It’s up to you to discover which ones you like best. One thing is certain: to fully enjoy the moment while staying protected, ultra-thin condoms are your best ally!

Letting Go

Letting go seems to be very important for intensifying pleasure. The reason is simple: the brain plays an essential role in sexual pleasure! In fact, several studies—particularly brain imaging studies—have shown this to be true. So, how do we let go?

First, we learn to feel good about ourselves, and then about our partner. We clear our minds and focus on our sensations. We connect with our partner through touch, but also through sight. Take care of your mental and physical health. And finally, take the time to create an atmosphere that’s conducive to letting go!

Remember to lubricate

To enhance pleasure, lubrication is very important! It helps you feel stimulation more intensely and makes it more enjoyable. For example, if you experience pain during penetration (anal or vaginal), it’s essential!

To lubricate and intensify sensations, our CBD lubricant is ideal. Made with cannabidiol—a relaxing, non-psychoactive substance—arnica, and plant-based oils, it helps you relax and heightens pleasure. 🧡

Looking for other ways to boost your desire? BDSM, tantric sex, circlusion, slow sex, edging, kink, anal sex... Our blog is full of suggestions!

Author: Flora Druesne
Sources: Simulation of men: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/14681994.2016.1158803
The Brain’s Role in Orgasm: https://lecerveau.mcgill.ca/flash/d/d_04/d_04_cr/d_04_cr_des/d_04_cr_des.html