Oral Sex: Tips and Techniques for Ten Times the Pleasure

It’s one of the most popular sexual practices among both men and women: oral sex. A January 2022 study indicates that 4 out of 10 French people regularly engage in fellatio, cunnilingus, and other 69 positions... My Lubie offers tips and techniques for oral sex to take your pleasure to the next level!

Wanting to have oral sex

When it comes to oral sex, the first piece of advice isto want to do it! You can’t give a good blowjob or perform good cunnilingus without truly wanting to. Ask yourself if you want to do it or not. And don’t forget to ask your partner the same question! No matter what sexual activity you’re engaging in, consent is essential.

Saying What We Like

We can't stress this enough: communication is essential between consenting adults. For oral sex to be enjoyable, take each other's desires into account. What does she/he like? Gentle touch? Masturbation while receiving oral sex? Don't hesitate to ask your partner questions.

Take it easy

Start gently—first use your hands to pleasure your partner, then kiss their thighs, and gradually move closer to their private parts. Take it slow at first. Watch out for your teeth! The goal is to please your partner, not to hurt them ;-)

Choosing the Right Areas to Stimulate

The frenulum, testicles, and glans are highly sensitive areas in men. Tease these areas with your tongue and fingers. Take the glans into your mouth, wrap your lips around it, and close your mouth slightly while gently pulling your head back. This should really please him! For people with vulvas, be sure to stimulate the clitoris, of course, but don’t forget the rest: the labia minora, labia majora, vaginal opening, etc.

Vary the pace

Changing up the rhythm is one of the tricks to make oral sex even more pleasurable. You can even stop completely during the act to see how your partner reacts. Arousal should be at its peak! Also, keep in mind that taking a break can help prevent cramps. Because yes, that can happen during oral sex, for example!

Have fun for the sake of enjoyment

Chocolate, whipped cream, jam... Why not incorporate food into your sex life? It can be fun and, frankly, exciting. Play around with different sensations and textures. Here’s a little tip: run an ice cube over your tongue, then lick your partner’s genitals. It’s a great way to spice things up ;-)

Using Your Hands

Giving a great blowjob or performing cunnilingus isn't just about using your tongue. Use your hands to masturbate your partner (or to masturbate yourself). Back-and-forth movements will further enhance the pleasure. How else can you masturbate besides using your hands or your partner’s genitals? Be creative: a pillow, a sex toy, etc. It’s up to you to figure out what you like best!

Make small movements

Making big movements over and around the genitals doesn’t necessarily guarantee a good blowjob or cunnilingus. By taking only your partner’s glans into your mouth, you’ll give them maximum pleasure. The same goes for the vulva: licking a small area of the vulva often provides much more pleasure than running your tongue along its entire length. Learn to vary the intensity of your movements and pay attention to the reactions they elicit.

Try 69

A classic oral sex position: 69 is the stuff of many fantasies! Whether practiced between a man and a woman, between two women, or between two men, this sexual position is, on the surface, simple to perform. However, a few tips are in order, especially when it comes to comfort. To make the pleasure last longer, modify the 69 position (one on top of the other, head-to-toe) by lying on your side. This will reduce physical strain on both partners.

Try the Kivin Method

This is a variation of the 69 position on the side. The person receiving the oral sex lies on their back, bending one leg at the knee and pulling it up toward their chest. The person performing oral sex positions themselves perpendicular to their partner, resting their head on their partner’s genitals, beneath the bent leg. This angle offers ten times the pleasure!

Thinking About Rimming

Another form of oral sex: rimming. It involves stimulating the anus with the tongue. Why? Simply because this erogenous zone has a large number of nerve endings! Rimming can be part of foreplay before anal sex to lubricate the anus before penetration. The receiving partner stands facing a wall with their legs slightly apart. Their partner stands behind them. Don’t forget to ask your partner if they consent to this sexual practice! For added comfort and hygiene, make sure to have some intimate wipes on hand beforehand ;-)

The T-position

Oral sex can also be performed standing up! The person giving oral sex lies on their back with their head at the edge of the bed. The partner receiving oral sex stands over the other person’s head. The person receiving oral stimulation can lean forward during the act to please their partner. After that, it’s just like any other form of oral sex: it’s up to you to set the pace and play with your tongue and fingers. Of course, don’t forget to let your partner know before you start so you can make sure they’re on board.

The Risks of Oral Sex

Oral sex is not without risks. Whether it involves cunnilingus, fellatio, or both, there is a risk of contracting sexually transmitted infections (STIs) such as human papillomavirus (HPV), as well as sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), genital herpes, and HIV. The modes of transmission vary depending on the specific practices. Was there no ejaculation inside either partner’s mouth during intercourse? The risk of transmission still exists, because both men and women secrete bodily fluids during sexual intercourse. Does the person performing fellatio have oral lesions (irritations or sores)? In that case, the risks are increased. To properly protect yourself and your partner, it is essential to use condoms. In the case of HPV, the risk factor remains even with protection.

In conclusion, oral sex can greatly enhance your pleasure and that of your partner—as long as you practice safe sex and communicate!

Author: Caroline Bédi